Sorry Fans, Last One.

 Those well on their way to divorce have ten significant differences. Those well on their way to success have ten significant differences. How interesting is that. I think I’ve mentioned that before in one of my blogs but we talked about it again and I thought it was so fascinating.

Divorce was the topic this week. We talked about how marriage can either be a covenant or a contract. As a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, we believe in covenant marriages. Covenants made with God, or promises, to be faithful to our spouse and to be sealed for time and all eternity. We believe that families can be sealed together forever. Not only will they be together in this life, but also the next.

Marriages these days when doing the marriage ceremony the officiator will say, “until death do you part…”  or, “so long as both of you shall live…” There are a lot of things I could go into on the subject but bottom line, when people make a covenant, they are saying they are in it for the long haul.

But people are different. People change. Life happens. It isn’t always easy to stick with someone when they get on your nerves often and they live with you. I feel that especially these days that people give up so easily because of the examples of those in the movies and actors in real life.

Divorce is available. It is acceptable. Normal even. And its okay sometimes. If there is abuse from either husband to wife or wife to husband, get out of there. There is no reason to stay if they aren’t going to change and your life may or may not be on the line. I know cheating is a big deal as well but I firmly believe issues of that nature and anything less than that can definitely be worked out.

There was a statistic that said that 70% of the people that they interviewed said that their marriage was very unsatisfactory or just unsatisfactory. After 2 years everything but therapy, that 70% said that they found their marriage satisfactory or very satisfactory. Therapy isn’t always the answer and works for some people and is definitely there to help people, but not always essential for the situation.

Religion is a big reason for divorce. Those are your beliefs. They are near and dear to your heart. Its your faith. And marrying someone who has different beliefs than you can be extremely difficult. Another big reason for divorce these days is money. There are extremes of either side but it is one of the number one factors for divorce today. The couple could either be swamped with bills and be broke out of their minds and get so overwhelmed that they call it quits. Or on the other side of the spectrum, having so much money and being greedy as freak. Money and greed changes people and it can really ruin relationships.

Another problem that is rough with divorce is the kids. How rough for those kids. Children will often struggle with depression after their parents get a divorce. Also, kids will probably act up and be disappointed in the situation at hand and dealing with each parent but now dealing with them individually.

I have a friend whose dad came out as gay. He left the family and the kids behind to go with his gay partner(both of them are awesome dudes so not being a hater). What I am trying to say and the point I am getting at is that my friend has now pretty much chosen her father over her mother.

After her dad left she was really hurt which was sad but she decided to build a better relationship with him and now favors her dad over her mom. That’s so difficult to hear but it is what it is.

Divorce is rough. Just understand relationships take work.