Dating to Marriage in 5 Easy Steps

 Sorry to lead you astray but there definitely aren’t 5 easy steps from dating to marriage. It is a long process and should be a long process. Marriage is a big decision and if you just marry the first ding dong to come along it could be more rough than it needs to be.

Now, I'm not saying that if a really great guy comes along first things first then go ahead and marry the man. I just hate when people get stuck with losers because they were the first one to show any attention. To be honest, that was my biggest fear. Marrying the first guy to show interest in me. Luckily I didn’t because the guy that did come along just wasn’t right for me.

Back to the subject at hand though. In class this week, the discussion we had was absolutely fascinating.

There are a few things people go through before marriage. Obviously, there needs to be some dating going on before marriage. But even in the mix there needs to be courtship and then engagement and THEN marriage.

Dating is important because you get to meet lots of different people in different situations as you spend time with them one on one. Then you get to experience different personalities and see which aspects of people you don’t like and ones you do like! It is important to recognize traits in others that you are fond of so that you don’t get trapped with traits in your partner you aren’t a fan of.

Granted, no one is perfect. And don’t be thinking that you’re the perfect one with no traits that bother your significant other. Just accept the fact that you are going to do stuff that drives your lover crazy just as much as they do to you. Its okay. People will be people.

So after all the dating stuff and you luckily find someone you are less annoyed with compared to the others, you make it official and enter the zone of courtship. This is very important as well. It is more serious between the two of you and more time should be spent together talking about more serious things.

Personally I feel that this phase in the process of dating to marriage is crucial. Communication at this point is really going to help you know for sure if this is the one for you. If you guys can talk about the important things in life and either agree or be willing to compromise, then I'm sure that the relationship will be a lot better in the long run than if you were to just blindly follow along.

Once things between you two are what both of you desire and that you both are willing to take on the married life, you get engaged!

Here are some fun facts that really peaked my interest while in class.

Those who spend over $2,500 on the ring are in trouble. And the more money they spend over that amount, the less time they are married. Quite interesting.

Also, it is so unfortunate when a man proposes to a woman in the middle of a huge crowd. If he does that, it is all for show. The proposal is supposed to be a humble experience of the man getting on one knee and asking the woman of his dreams to be his wife and commit to him as he is committing to her.

Also what advice that I loved from my teacher was that planning the wedding should be done between the couple. Yes parents and friends can put in input and options but ultimately the woman AND the man should together decide how their perfect day is going to go.

And did you know that the average amount of money spent on a wedding is roughly $34,000? Is it just me who thinks that is absolutely wild or are there any other sane people out there?? People, it is one day. I get that it is special and important but that is WAY too much money. Just saying.

Once you are married, both people, as man and wife, should pull together their resources. It shouldn’t be what is his is his or what is hers is hers. All of it should be theirs. Together. Couples who have separate bank accounts are less likely to last compared to those who are willing to put all their monies together for a joint bank account. Giving all you have to the one you love and them doing that in return is the ultimate gift of love and trust bonding you two closer together.

It all sounds more simple than it actually is. And its all great advice.

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