Money, Money, Money...It's a Problem. (also enjoy my rant...thank you.)

 This week’s discussion was about something I feel is a little too close to my heart. Money. Money is so vital to life but also such a dangerous game. Its nice having money and being able to go out and about to go get ice cream with friends or to buy that coat you think is absolutely adorable. But. If you don’t have money sometimes, you’ll feel that your world is literally crumbling all around you.

I feel that it is very vital to existence as a human being to realize and understand that money isn’t that important. It is, but it also isn’t…to an extent. Of course, you need money for the essentials like food, housing, at least SOME clothing to roam the town and not get arrested for being nakey and some sort of transportation if needed.

Some secondary things that would be good to spend money on would be health care and maybe a cheap phone along with a cheap phone plan. If you were feeling extra wealthy, you could even subscribe to Netflix or Hulu.

One of the number one reasons for divorce is money. People fight over money all the time. Especially when funds get tight and you have bills to pay up to your eyes, things are said, and feelings get hurt. When times get tough, especially these days I feel that a lot of people quit and give up so quickly. No effort is put in when shiz hits the fan.

I don’t think people, particularly young people, understand that relationships take effort and a lot of it. And a lot of people, in order to live with the things they want to have, both people in the relationship are required to work.

In class my teacher told us of a story about a husband and wife and their financial situation. I don’t remember how many kids they had but they had some. For the purpose of the story, we will say they had 2. So this husband and wife sat down with an interviewer and an accountant. Both the husband and wife worked and told the accountant how much each of them made throughout the year. The husband made about $45,000 at his full time job while the wife made about $20,000 at her part time job.

With their kids though and with both of them working, they had all kinds of extra things they needed to pay for in order to both stay at work. Daycare was one of the things they had to pay for and also extra activities after school were paid for. On their way too and from places they would grab food just out of convenience. With telling the accountant all the extra things that were paid for so that both of them could work, his calculations told them that throughout the year they spent around $15,000 for all the extra things.

After realizing all the money that was spent on the kids so that both the husband and wife could keep their jobs, the wife asked the cameras to be turned off…when they came back on the wife had red eyes and the husband was gently rubbing her back. Neither of them realized that it didn’t make that much of a difference if the wife worked because it caused them to pay for so many other things to compensate a parent not in the home.

This is not saying that women cant work or that they couldn’t support a family. Women can do whatever they want. This is just an example so don’t go getting all butthurt…anyway.

I feel that it is SO IMPORTANT for their to be someone, be it the mom or the dad, in the home with the children. Kids need that.

My cousin and her husband worked and they had one kid. Their child though was so unruly and moody and all over the place. Then when she stopped working and stayed home their kid was WAY better behaved and less psycho. You might think that’s just because the kid was going through a phase but I truly believe that it was because he finally had his mom at home with him (I also don’t feel that I adequately told the story…apologies). 

To all you moms out there. I just have to say. It is a divine responsibility. Women have a natural instinct with children. No offense dudes but women are (typically) more caring and compassionate more loving and tender. We are built different. Whereas men are more so protective and provide for their family they also are to preside. Not to rule over the mother and children but to help guide them toward good things.

All in all. Men and women, husbands and wives should be a team and work side by side to take part in each of their roles as a parent to care for and provide for their children. I understand and I am fully aware that there are different situations for everyone but really, I know this all to be true facts.

I’ll get off my soapbox now…